Taking Charge

[poliphilo]

We've been talking about getting power of attorney over my mother's affairs for a while now. (By "we" I mean the generation below hers). Yesterday we took the first steps. It makes me feel like a conspirator.

Comments

[pondhopper.livejournal.com]

She doesn't realize you're doing this?

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

She knows- but I'm not sure how much she understands.

[pondhopper.livejournal.com]

Yes. It was the same with my mother.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

She's quite good at pretending to understand.

"I see" means "What you've just said has sailed right over my head but never mind."

[ingenious76.livejournal.com]

Yes. My parents took the same decision when my grandmother descended into dementia and my grandfather essentially gave up. He knows they have PoA, but I don't think he gets the seriousness of it.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

My mother is very accepting of what's happening to her. It's as if she's in a dream.

[veronica-milvus.livejournal.com]

It made things much easier with my father in law. For one thing, we made sure the bills got paid.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

My mother's been pretty good about paying bills, but i know it's a source of anxiety to her.