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poliphilo ([personal profile] poliphilo) wrote2013-10-19 11:57 am
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Taking Charge

We've been talking about getting power of attorney over my mother's affairs for a while now. (By "we" I mean the generation below hers). Yesterday we took the first steps. It makes me feel like a conspirator.
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[identity profile] pondhopper.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 02:56 pm (UTC)(link)
She doesn't realize you're doing this?

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
She knows- but I'm not sure how much she understands.

[identity profile] pondhopper.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 03:03 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes. It was the same with my mother.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 03:13 pm (UTC)(link)
She's quite good at pretending to understand.

"I see" means "What you've just said has sailed right over my head but never mind."

[identity profile] ingenious76.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 04:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes. My parents took the same decision when my grandmother descended into dementia and my grandfather essentially gave up. He knows they have PoA, but I don't think he gets the seriousness of it.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 05:17 pm (UTC)(link)
My mother is very accepting of what's happening to her. It's as if she's in a dream.

[identity profile] veronica-milvus.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 05:22 pm (UTC)(link)
It made things much easier with my father in law. For one thing, we made sure the bills got paid.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2013-10-19 05:39 pm (UTC)(link)
My mother's been pretty good about paying bills, but i know it's a source of anxiety to her.
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