Blood On Blood

 Big bust-up yesterday with a family member. I'm not going into details.

The pot has been simmering on the hob for years. It's a relief that it's finally boiled over.

They no longer have to make nice with me and I no longer have to make nice with them.

Minimal contact is now called for. Not hostility but a merciful agreement not to go on causing one another discomfort. I don't know how this will work out in practice. 

Conversation isn't really an option. We talk different languages.

Parent And Child

 This should have been posted yesterday so it's out of sequence. I was too embroiled in an exchange of missives/missiles to remember to transfer it over from LJ......

Parent and adult child- that's such a difficult relationship. 

They may not even like one another but.....

.....The parent wants to control the child, the child wants to control the parent. 

Each finds it hard to accept that the other may have different values. Neither can quite accept that the other is a separate person on a separate life path.

 Parent says, "You're an actor in my play". Child says," No I ain't, you're an actor in mine."

Why must they carry on pushing and pulling until something breaks?