Pebbles

[poliphilo]

Ailz: Would you say you knew everything about me?

Self: Hell, no.

Ailz: Cos there's this thing I'm reading that says that couples start off asking one another questions all the time and then they think they know everything about one another and get bored with the relationship.

Self: How can I possibly know everything about you when I don't know everything about myself?

Ailz: Exactly.

What is personality? It's certainly not a package tied up with string. It's not fixed. I get this image of a rock pool, washed over twice daily by the tide. It's a tight little eco-system, but one that's open to something a whole lot bigger.

O look, those pebbles weren't there before. And that crab is new.

Hello, Mr Crab.

Comments

[arielstarshadow.livejournal.com]

What makes your analogy even more intruguing is that there is also the possibility of someone coming along and reaching into your little rock pool and moving things about, taking things out, and even putting things in.

I like that, since it's indicative of the effect those around us can have on who we are - I know some people say only we can change ourselves, but I'm not entirely sure that's the case. At least, maybe some of our changes are done subconsciously, in response to those around us - it's not something we make a conscious decision to do, but rather something that just happens (for good or ill).

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

I'm sure other people can change us. "No man is an island" and all that. X is my friend. X betrays my trust. As a result I become a less trusting person. X has changed me- and entirely against my will.