Ooh, But This Is Bracing

[poliphilo]

Ailz just rang me all upset because she'd been talking to her father.  Did he ask her how she was? Apparently not. Did she get to know how he was?  Oh yes- and how!  He was in tears, barely able to speak- and his legs have swollen up- and now she's in a spin about how she's making him ill. Her mother is in a spin too (you can tell by how dithery she's become). I'm furious (well, calming down a bit now) but as I said to Ailz, I'm her next of kin and if I can hold it together, her bloody father can.

He's done this to her all her life,  the selfish, controlling, old pantaloon. You can't suffer in that family without him suffering more. "Don't upset, your father, Aileen, you'll give him a headache." And now, of course- now that he's really ill- whenever someone takes the spotlight off him he can scare them out of it by threatening to die.  It's amazing what power there is in weakness!

Otherwise,  it's looking like Ailz's trouble is being caused by adhesions left over from the surgery she had in 2005. She moved funny and tore or twisted one of them- something like that.  She's scheduled for an ultrasound scan, but it probably won't happen today because of the waiting list.

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[cluegirl.livejournal.com]

I had just such an adhesion situation a few years ago, right down to the 'moved just wrong and tore something' scenario. Trouble was, the adhesions don't show up on ultrasound, because as tough as they are, they're actually rather thin and wispy structures.

That said, the surgery to relieve the situation was simple, straightforward, done laproscopically, and over in a single afternoon. The pain relief was immediate, and healing from the surgery was a minimally invasive affair.

I wish your Aliz similar luck with her experience, as well as fortitude in dealing with her parental parasite. (And all strength and patience to you as well.)

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

It's good to know there's a treatment- and that it's simple and safe.

Ailz had her gall bladder taken out five years ago- and that was a major drama- which she was lucky to survive. The presenting symptoms this time were worryingly like the ones she had then. It's been a relief to discover that this- whatever it is- is something quite different.