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Some People I Know
When she was only a baby they decided that their daughter would be a tribulation to them. It's how they accounted for her to themselves. And it was the script they handed her- both a license and a condemnation.
Half a century later they still adhere to the script. They like it so much, they have passed over every opportunity to know her better, to find out who she really is. Even though she's now their chief support, they enjoy telling friends and strangers- yes, even strangers- what a tribulation she is.
And they run her down to her face.
They are not otherwise bad people. They have virtues.
But all of that is none of my business. My business is to hate them.
Half a century later they still adhere to the script. They like it so much, they have passed over every opportunity to know her better, to find out who she really is. Even though she's now their chief support, they enjoy telling friends and strangers- yes, even strangers- what a tribulation she is.
And they run her down to her face.
They are not otherwise bad people. They have virtues.
But all of that is none of my business. My business is to hate them.
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"They fuck you up, you mum and dad...."
My parents did that.
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Now that that I'm on my third husband, my parents are deceased and it's all too late... I finally realize how very sad this all is. My parents missed knowing the most awesome person whose life ever crossed their path. Me!
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The other day the daughter told her mother she was going to be doing a course in 20th century art- to which the mother replied, "Why are you doing that? You know nothing about art"- which only goes to show she knows nothing- and cares less- about her daughter's life.
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Parenthood is something for which most of us get little or no training- and really it's no wonder to most of us make a pig's ear of it.
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How would she feel to know such behaviour were still current?
(Glad Aliz has had the sense to leave them behind)
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Scary stuff.
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The hate is required by the love.
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Yes. Sometimes you take sides, because it's one of the ways that you show your love.
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There's an element of play-acting in it too. You take sides because that's what the drama demands.
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But I think- as actors- we can interpret it as we choose.
Maybe even do a bit of improv now and then.
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I have one parent like that too.
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The lady has long since outgrown her parents ;)
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Hugs to her
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Thanks.
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As for the lady in question, how gracious she is to support them still.
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I'm sorry.
:(
Ailz is too good to them. Or does she have a superlative sense of duty?
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Ailz has a very strong sense of duty.
The Parent
I am very glad that my mother has lived so long.....
We have had a good and loving relationship for the past fifteen years or so.
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(My opinion.)
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In theory I agree. Once they're gone I will be sublimely indifferent.
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It seems there are a lot of them out there.
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A shared gene pool does not give one carte blanche to treat others like shit.
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Sad, eh?
And this in a society that puts mothers on a pedestal.
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Love you too. :)
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I'm adding you back.
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