What The Wild Waves Said

[poliphilo]

 I went for a walk. I  asked the sea what I should be doing.

"Put the anger aside, "it said. "Put aside the guilt."

"OK, I said, after watching the waves for a while, "And the conclusion I've come to when my mind is as clear as it can be is that I've done this job long enough. Ailz and I may not have many more years of active life- and there are other things we'd like to be getting on with."

"Fine," said the sea."An excellent choice if I may say so."

I waited for the guilt and anger to kick back in- and they didn't.

My sister is researching nursing homes even as I write.

Comments

[heleninwales]

I think that is the right decision. It sounds as though your mother has reached the point where she's not really aware of where she is or who is looking after her. Spending the final active years of your own life tied to her is not really helping any of you. I hope you can find a suitable nursing home before too long.

[poliphilo]

My sister has an appointment to visit a couple of nursing homes tomorrow. Things are moving fast.

[cmcmck]

Eastbourne is pretty good on nursing homes as I recall.

Hope you manage to sort it all out.

[poliphilo]

We're looking at places halfway between here and Basingstoke- which is where my sister lives. At the moment Godalming is looking good. Also Guildford.