Fatherhood

[poliphilo]

What's with this this father-son thing that Hollywood keeps shoving
at us?

Spielberg can't leave it alone. Catch Me If You Can was sharp and funny so long as Leo was sticking it to the Man, but then we found out that his delinquency was down to the lack of a father figure and all it needed to reform him was for Tom Hanks to offer him unquestioning love.

Yesterday I was watching Finding Nemo. Great film in its way, but Albert Brooks's fussy lttle everyman of a soccer-dad made me feel queasy. If Ellen DeGeneres hadn't happened along I might well have walked out.

It's like the nineteenth century cult of motherhood. It gives off a sickly smell. I think there's something rotten that's being covered up.

Actually, I know perfectly well what it is. A very high proportion of dads who walk out of a marriage lose contact with their kids within two or three years. And a high proportion of those who stay behind are bullies, brutes and abusers. Of course there are good dads, but there are an awful lot of absolute shites as well.

Do families need fathers?

We daren't say "no" because if we did it would hurt the feelings of men. And that would be tricky because it's men who run the world. So we tell ourselves these cute little stories to keep ourselves from thinking too much about the facts.

There was once a little fishy and his wife got eaten by a barracuda so he had to look after his baby son all by himself and he loved his little son so much that he got a weeny bit over-protective; and then one fine day...

Comments

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

I love movies too. And TV. TV is often ahead of the movies in giving women a voice and a presence. My favourite show of recent years was Buffy (but I loved Willow best.)

Currently I'm hooked on Deadwood. OK, it's a boy's show- guns and stuff- but they've allowed the women to be other than appendages. There's Calamity Jane for starters- foul-mouthed and ballsy and utterly unglamorous- and wonderfully played by Robin Weigert.

On the whole I prefer my films to be non-Hollywood. I'm crazy about Ingmar Bergman for instance. And Bergman gives his actresses real roles. In many of his best movies- Persona, Cries and Whispers, The Silence- it's the men who are the appendages. Yay!

[catvalente.livejournal.com]

Well, living out here I don't really have access to too many Hollywood films--the base theaters show one or two movies at a time and those are rarely ones I want to see. I had to spell Jane Eyre for the video store so they wouldn't think it was a basketball movie.

I can't actually decide whether I like movies or the fun of picking them apart better. It's like dessert or main course.

I haven't seen Deadwood--no TV--but I love Buffy--and Willow. Of course, I could say something about the portrayal of academic lesbians as evil, but I'll just keep that to myself...

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Academic lesbians? You mean professors seducing their innocent blonde proteges?

There's a Brit show going on at present called Hex. It ain't Buffy- it's both sillier and darker. There's a very appealing, frumpy, lesbian ghost in it who seems to be turning into the central character- a kind of dead, teenage, Miss Marple if that makes any sense.

[catvalente.livejournal.com]

Academic women who are also lesbians--at the same time! Willow was the only one of the gang--the kids, mind you, not the grown ups--who valued book learning, and she, of course, goes down the dark path, because that's what girls who step out of the helpmeet role do. ;)

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Ah, yes, of course. She lacked a firm guiding fatherly hand.

But good old Giles got her straightened out in the end.

I identified strongly with Willow. What with me being a geek and all.

[catvalente.livejournal.com]

And there we have it. ;)

Not to mention the straight male lifelong friend who was a bloody carpenter for CHRIST'S sake talking her down with the power of his huge throbbing love.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

LOL.

Dear old Xander. How he suffered for our salvation!