Surrogacy

[poliphilo]

A childless friend of mine is considering surrogacy. I know what I feel- which is "yeuch"; I'm less sure what I think.  To help me make up my mind my friend sent me this article from The New York Times.  The author has had two kids with two different surrogates, is awfully pleased with the supremely ethical choices she has made- and seems to believe- as rich people so often do- that the people she is paying are smiling at her because they love her. She also descends, towards the end, into nauseating babytalk. The article hasn't changed my feelings. If anything it has hardened them- but I don't like finding myself on the same side as the Pope.  Are my objections atavistic and patriarchal or am I right to trust my gut? 

Comments

[baritonejeff.livejournal.com]

The comments thus far are intelligent and reasoned, and I learned something in the reading.

How I feel about it? Like anything of this nature, the potential for abuse is high and the affluent have by far the most options.

This is an intensely personal thing. I have no problem with it personally *if* all parties concerned have thoroughly thought it through, and are themselves comfortable.

If so, it's none of my business.

I know that the baser side of human nature will mandate that this frequently is not so.

Very sad.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

I want to be able to support my friend if she decides to go down this route, but I have to deal with my prejudices first.

[baritonejeff.livejournal.com]

At least you are making a strong attempt to do so. Most people wouldn't, I think.