Politics of the Playground

[poliphilo]

Someone unfriended me yesterday ("unfriended" is that the right word, or should it be "unbefriended"?) I was quite upset.

And yet this was a person-

a with whom I had nothing in common
b who rarely posted
c who never commented on any of my posts

What a fragile little ego I have!

It takes me back to childhood- to the politics of the playground- and how we manipulated one another with the threat "I'll not be your friend anymore" and the promise "I'll be your bestest friend".

Comments

[morrison-maiden.livejournal.com]

Lol, it is rather funny when you look at it like the playground system. I feel kind of sad when people take me off their lists too...

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

I'm making it a rule that I won't unfriend anyone unless they unfriend me first.

[kaysho.livejournal.com]

Alternatively, keep them as a friend anyway. If they've "unfriended" you over a temporary issue, it shows you haven't given up on them. If they've unfriended you because they can't stand you, it'll drive them crazy. :)

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

The unfriender I'm talking about runs a "Friends Only" site, so there didn't seem much point in keeping her on my list. But I'll bear your advice in mind for the next time it happens.