It Continues

[poliphilo]

Ailz thinks K may have been watching the house. How else did she know to ring when she did- just after we got back from the hospital?

Ha, we have a stalker!

The first time she rang Joe picked up. He told her Ailz was out (and if she was watching she'd have known it was a lie.) The second time I picked up. And was taken off guard by the flood of apologies. I was expecting recriminations, self-justification- not this.

I forget the exact wording, but she was begging to be taken back.

I blocked her questions. I didn't give encouragement. But neither did I tell her to get lost.

I should have done, I should have done.

"I'll ring again in a couple of days," she said. "Maybe Aileen will be able to talk to me then."

She has convinced herself that Ailz is having a funny turn and will come to her senses and be her friend again.

I had no idea she was so attached......

Comments

[lblanchard.livejournal.com]

Stand firm. If you're feeling charitable, tell her she probably needs to learn how to set boundaries between herself and the folks for whom she's caring and that if she does this, she should make an excellent caregiver for *another* worthy family.

And wish her well and say goodbye.

(Spoken as one who's gotten REALLY good at this over the last nine months.)

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Kindly but firm.

Yes, I've never been good at the setting of boundaries. I let people get too close too soon. We both do.