Grrrr...

[poliphilo]

My mother (on our return from taking her to the dentist's): "I think I should be paying you for all these trips we make and then I think that I'm feeding and housing you..."

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[puddleshark.livejournal.com]

A friend who had to give up her own life to care for her frail, confused and difficult mother was somewhat taken aback when the mother started demanding rent from her.

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Time to go home and feed and house yourselves then, maybe?

[basefinder.livejournal.com]

I have an author friend who is probably about 80. For over a decade he has sent me a $100 check each year to support my research and web site. He recently offered to photocopy a historic document for me, but surprised me by saying "I'll have to charge you for each page of the copying." So he sent me an itemized bill for something like $21.74 -- along with my annual $100 check. I think age is starting to creep into his perspective on money. (I promptly sent him a check for $21.74, of course.)

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Ooh-er...

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Well....

It would cost her £72 a day to hire someone to do what we're doing...

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

That's a little sad.

My mother doesn't understand money. I think that's part of it. My father was a generous man- but then he did.

[cmcmck.livejournal.com]

Exactement!

I know what my MiL was having to pay as we were so far away.

Maybe you need to mention that small fact?

[artkouros.livejournal.com]

Now that my mom is living with our littlest sister, who is no longer working so she can care for her, we're giving our sister the $2K a month that we used to pay to the assisted living facility. It seems simple and right.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Food for thought...:)

[pondhopper.livejournal.com]

Perhaps your mother should see in print what hiring someone to help would cost her or what a good assisted residential situation would cost.
You are being taken for granted and she has forgotten that it was she who needed the help and not vice versa.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

She knows what it costs because she has to pay for live-in care when we go home.

£72 per day. That's the rate.