I think that's true that we need these stories about good parenting.
My Evil Twin (the person most like me in the world) is a divorced father of two. His kids are in their mid-to-late 20's now, but he's told me stories of the divorce and the aftermath. I think it takes a lot of patience and courage and love to keep a good relationship with your children during and after a divorce--perhaps after more than during.
In the case of my ET, he has a lot of mothering instincts, too, perhaps more than his ex-wife. We've talked about this, mothering and fathering. They are clearly different attributes, if not skills. We had a lot of trouble quantifying them, though, and gave up, though we agreed that neither is gender-specific. Good parenting is clearly a combination of both.
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Date: 2004-11-13 05:26 pm (UTC)My Evil Twin (the person most like me in the world) is a divorced father of two. His kids are in their mid-to-late 20's now, but he's told me stories of the divorce and the aftermath. I think it takes a lot of patience and courage and love to keep a good relationship with your children during and after a divorce--perhaps after more than during.
In the case of my ET, he has a lot of mothering instincts, too, perhaps more than his ex-wife. We've talked about this, mothering and fathering. They are clearly different attributes, if not skills. We had a lot of trouble quantifying them, though, and gave up, though we agreed that neither is gender-specific. Good parenting is clearly a combination of both.