Staying in touch with them over those years of childhood and adolescence was the most demanding, practically difficult and emotionally wrenching thing I have ever done.
I'm sure it must have been very hard for you, but you did it, and you did it for them. Now that they are grown, they can understand and appreciate the effort you made to forge a relationship and offer your support to them.
Without that great effort, there would be nothing there now, no way to have adult friendships and care, which is the great surprise and gift of later parenthood.
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Date: 2004-11-13 01:08 pm (UTC)I'm sure it must have been very hard for you, but you did it, and you did it for them. Now that they are grown, they can understand and appreciate the effort you made to forge a relationship and offer your support to them.
Without that great effort, there would be nothing there now, no way to have adult friendships and care, which is the great surprise and gift of later parenthood.