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poliphilo ([personal profile] poliphilo) wrote2010-08-31 09:46 am

A Stick Would Help

My father-in-law took a tumble yesterday. I was nearby, picking plums in his back yard, and saw it happen. He came striding out of the house, caught his foot on an uneven paving slab and fell full length. I was useless.  All I could think to do was yell for Ailz. While I was standing there trying not to look as if I was panicking the man from next door very quietly popped round and helped Eric to his feet. The damage was minimal.  He'd punctured the skin on the heel of one of his hands. We took him inside, put him in an armchair and I went back to picking plums. Within half an hour he was reminiscing happily. These falls are a regular feature of his life. He could forestall them by using a stick, but he won't because that would be an unmanly admission of failure.

[identity profile] pondhopper.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 09:26 am (UTC)(link)
I know a few people like that. What is wrong with a stick? Tell him it will make him look distinguished!

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 09:40 am (UTC)(link)
We had him using a walking frame for a while, but it didn't suit- for some trumped up reason or other.

[identity profile] wolfshift.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 10:54 am (UTC)(link)
Failure in this case meaning age?

Stubbornness and aging (at any stage of life) don't seem to go well together.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 01:46 pm (UTC)(link)
He's over 80 and doesn't want to go gentle into that good night. I don't altogether blame him.

[identity profile] halfmoon-mollie.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 01:20 pm (UTC)(link)
What if someone were to get him a really FANCY stick - or cane? Might he use it then? Especially if you all made a fuss about how COOL it was?

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 01:47 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't honestly think it would make any difference. He just hates being an old man.

[identity profile] halfmoon-mollie.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 02:02 pm (UTC)(link)
well, one can hardly blame him. My Dad's going to be 84 in October...
Edited 2010-08-31 14:03 (UTC)

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 02:27 pm (UTC)(link)
My father died at 82. He'd been in failing health and was ready to go.

[identity profile] daisytells.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 05:50 pm (UTC)(link)
The stick (cane) prevents falls and broken hips, which would really be an indication of failure. Broken hips at advanced age often mean confinement for a long time, if not for good. I hope he changes his mind about this.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 07:40 pm (UTC)(link)
We had him using a walking frame for a while- and then he decideed he didn't like it.
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[identity profile] wlotus.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)
And falling flat on his face isn't? Hm...

I'm glad he's okay.

[identity profile] poliphilo.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 07:41 pm (UTC)(link)
He's remarkably resilient. I thought we'd be taking him into hospital, but....

My own father died from a head injury following a fall.
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[identity profile] wlotus.livejournal.com 2010-08-31 08:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh dear...I'll hope even more earnestly that your FIL changes his mind about the cane.