An Essential Difference Between The Sexes

[poliphilo]

The matriarchs have consulted together and the big family Christmas do- which we were supposed to be hosting- has been called off-  because of snow- which means we have rather a lot of potato hash to eat.

Oh- and (cheerful thought) rather a lot of wine to drink.
 
Here's a major difference between men and women. Women love these affairs- with finger food being passed around and the generations tolerating one another and grandma sat in the corner receiving homage- and men detest them. At least, that's the case in our family. How about yours?

Comments

[ingenious76.livejournal.com]

It depends on the event. If its for an anniversary, say for example a Sixtieth Wedding, it can be amazing. However, at Christmas people tend to be stressed and irritable and sometimes putting three or four generations together is not the greatest.

[glitzfrau.livejournal.com]

Yes but, I think one of the reasons that statistically older men die very quickly when widowed is because they do actually need the family and social contacts that women maintain for them, and that often disappear once a wife has died. Boring, but vital, I would say.

[pondhopper.livejournal.com]

Hmmm...Manolo is actually the one who loves family gatherings more than I do and I have no quarrel with any of his family so it must be me being anti-social. I'd say the for and against are pretty evenly divided in our family, though. And since I don't live anywhere near my own birth family, that part is never an issue.

[haikujaguar.livejournal.com]

*thinks*

My family, both sexes like the functions.

My in-laws, the men not so much.

Maybe a cultural thing? My family being Cuban by way of Spain, his being mostly Dutch and British.

[unbleachedbrun.livejournal.com]

I survive them by spending my time cooking in the kitchen and running all the "helpers" out (which means I usually have to plan an activity to keep them occupied, like decorating gingerbread men cookies in the other room, or opening bottles of champagne). I don't let the womenfolk in the kitchen until it's time to clean up after dinner, since washing dishes seems to be an innate behavior in gaggles of females and we men are terrible at it.

[dadi.livejournal.com]

I used to hate these events with a vengeance, but now that I am starting to be among the middle to older generations, I don't mind them so much any more. I have problems when things get too noisy though, that causes me serious overload and I get bad tempered easily.

[jenny_evergreen]

We have several men in my extended family who have fits at the idea of canceling whereas I would very much prefer to chuck the whole thing, so it's not quite universal! :)

[solar-diablo.livejournal.com]

I tolerate get togethers with my family well enough, but there's nothing particularly enjoyable or egregious about it all. It's just...there. Now my in laws? Forget it. I can't stand to be around my mother in law, and I'm not overly fond of one sister in law's family (maybe I'm just grouchy).

In regards to northern vs. southern cultures, I'll echo what others have said here, but it works in the negative, too. When my family (Anglo) gets together, it's brief. When the in laws do (Latino), good GOD - you may as well pack a suitcase. You're going to be there awhile.

[lblanchard.livejournal.com]

Here's a little something to help you with the humor in the situation. I usually have this f-locked because it's massive copyright violation, but I've opened it up for a couple days.

http://lblanchard.livejournal.com/177017.html

[oakmouse]

When I was a kid I liked them, sort of. Now I flee screaming, as do most of the members of my family, male or female. My husband hates them, as do his father and (male) cousins, but his female relatives love them.

It was a huge relief this Christmas to be more than 2000 miles away from both families. We had a quiet time to ourselves and didn't have anybody chivvying us to come to the family "do".

[veronica-milvus.livejournal.com]

As a woman I don't love them. I was monumentally stressed by having 24 people in our house the Sunday before Christmas for my father n law's 80th birthday. But they do hold families together and that's why I did it. That and the fact that the Auld Fella said he's never had a birthday party before and we don't know how long we are going to have him with us.

Glad it is over though. Much more fun in the summer when you can get the barbie going and rustle up some robust salads to go with the meat.

[daisytells.livejournal.com]

I never could stand them, either. I tolerated the ones at my house better than the ones I had to travel for, though. My husband enjoyed the big family Christmases & Easters and Birthdays and I did not. Hmmm...maybe that's why I got divorced after 18 years.
I did enjoy family reunions though, mainly because there were cousins and other relatives I hadnt seen in years, and also because most of the activity was out of doors, usually on a bright and beautiful not too hot early summer day.
Lately I stay home for major holidays and invite three or four good friends in for dinner. Works for me...

[airstrip.livejournal.com]

I detest them. I hate exchanging pleasantries in general, even more so with relatives, for whom such things should be unnecessary to establish general goodwill.

Of course, I'm often accused of ruining Christmas.