Thanks For Being Nice To Me
I was out cutting the hedge yesterday afternoon and a child from down the street- a lonely 12 year old who gets lost in the crowd of her siblings- stopped by for a chat. After a while I asked Ailz (sotto voce) to come and chaperone me because- well- a middle-aged man has to be careful around kids these days. I hate it, but there you are. Ailz was showing her our collection of soft toys (we've got hundreds of them) and wound up giving her a couple. Later she returned with gifts of her own- a miniature scent bottle and a doll's hand mirror- plus a thankyou note.
thank's for the tedy what you give me and thank's for being nice to me and you are a good frend to now.
I've fixed it to the fridge with a magnet.
I don't know how people who are around kids all the time can stand it- all those vulnerable young lives- and knowing all the horrors that surround and await them- and being so powerless to do anything about it- like watching a fleet of paper boats going off down a fast-flowing river.
thank's for the tedy what you give me and thank's for being nice to me and you are a good frend to now.
I've fixed it to the fridge with a magnet.
I don't know how people who are around kids all the time can stand it- all those vulnerable young lives- and knowing all the horrors that surround and await them- and being so powerless to do anything about it- like watching a fleet of paper boats going off down a fast-flowing river.
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Thank you for this jewel of a post, Tony.
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We all have the power to make a difference in someone else's life; for good or for ill. By choosing to try and act for good, who knows what difference you have made to that girl's future?
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Sweet child...there are far too many kids not getting enough love in the world.
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ahh
(Anonymous) 2008-05-30 12:23 pm (UTC)(link)Great pictures of Alice by the way - I was aware of a relaxed quality about them. I sent the link to Jo and Thomas too, to share them.
Looking forward to seeing you soon. We can definitely see you and hopefully entertain you to a meal- Ma was unsure I think. We'll make sure of it and see if we can take any flexi time perhaps.
Jenny
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We'd love to come over for a meal. The way it's looking at present we should be down from Sunday evening to Friday morning.
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Like Jackie, I think this post is a jewel. I felt so sad after reading her note. Manolo and I were just now discussing the horrendous perspectives young people face these days. I think we had it easier.
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My childhood was lovely in some ways- bags of freedom- but I was also quite lonely for much of the time.
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She seemed very pleased with that.
Every time I see stuff on TV about kids in the Sudan, or kids getting blown up in Iraq, or in any other places in the world were kids end up being the victims of adult aggression, I think of that beautiful little Sudanese girl, and it brings tears to my eyes.
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I had a step-daughter once- sort of- in a relationship that lasted a couple of years. She was a troubled child and used to drive me up the wall. I now suspect (we just weren't so well clued up about these things back then) that she was being abused by her grandfather. I wish I'd done more....
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I was a sad and lonely kid. I work with children as an art teacher now in the hopes of passing on something I didn't get much of -- love, attention, and nourishment to pursue whatever they dream of despite the odds. Sometimes it's hard, but as someone said earlier, the now is what's most important to them, as well as for them.
I hope you and Ailz have the opportunity to spend more time with her!
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I hope so too.
I had a couple of art teachers who were both of them special people. One was a really fabulous story teller and the other was a dry, witty, nonconforming sort of a guy who created a space in which we could be nonconforming too.
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And that would be my greatest aspiration as an art teacher, too, lol! :)
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Not only middle-aged men - women too. It's so sad, but we all have to be really careful these days
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You know that, and I know that - but try telling it to the sort of person - parent or otherwise - who thinks that any lone adult is suspicious.
Don't you think that the root of all this is really the herd mentality that seems to have set in since about the mid 60s?
That's when, by my memory, families stopped doing things together, the peer group became all-important, and the child or adult who values quiet company (or none) became suspect.
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Similarly, loners have always been liable to persecution. Those words- "witch hunt"- say it all.
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I wasn't thinking so much of "loners" (which I take to mean complete solitaries) but simply people who need to spend some time alone, or children who prefer adult company.
Even witches (in persecution times) weren't solitaries. It's a long time since I knew an anthropologist who wrote a thick tome on this in the 1960s, but the impression I got from him was that it was their sought-after-ness that often sparked off witch-hunts, rather than their solitariness.
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Isn't it nice to make a new friend
Life is hard - well hard things happen - but so do good ones too. I think life just is!
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