Some Of The Best Advice.....

 "I haven't read X," said my friend, "And don't know why I should regard him as an expert. Stop filling your arguments with quotations. Just tell me what you think yourself.  Speak from your lived experience and not from books. Speak from the heart and not the brain...."

Books

 I love books, but you can't live in them. I know, I've tried.

And if you take them as a guide they'll sooner or later let you down.

Books are just words and words fall short. Ask a poet, they're the experts and they'll tell you the same.

Books are written by people- and people- even the most gifted- are limited in all sorts of ways. 

Books were written then- and this is now. This applies even if the then is very recent.

All the above applies, with suitable adaptions, to movies, TV shows, fandoms- and anything else that people get wrapped up in. It applies, with bells on, to anything that is presented or that presents itself as holy, authorative or eternally true.....