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Sep. 25th, 2024

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 I have been noticing how my dreams are structured.

Though "structure" isn't quite the right word because space and time- which structure our waking life- no longer exist- or not exactly as we know them. 

There is no narrative. Instead there are things that are going-on within a certain spatial and temporal containment field. I know that's not very clear but it's the best I can do.These "goings-on" are- as it were- layered;  they nest within one another; they interpenetrate. And none of these statements- derived from a waking apprehension of space-time- is quite accurate either.

This morning I had really rather good recall of a the dream I'd just woken from- and this will be an attempt to break it down.

The context or spatial-temoral contaiment field involved a visit to a country house that was variously my mother's farm, a retreat house run by Matt and Julia, the couple who used to do our gardening, and an aristocratic stately home.

And the goings-on included.

1 Sitting down to some sort of celebratory meal at which my mother and first wife were present- all personnel being fluid and having a tendency to morph into one another

2 Having a conversation with our hostess about how they might have to close the retreat house and what she really wanted to do was run a cafe

3 The planting of a hedge along the drive way- consisting of beech interspersed with flowering shrubs and rose bushes

4 A meeting with a little old man, ressembling the Britsh comedy actor Moore Marriott, who was renting an appartment in the country house. I'd expected him to be a bore but  found he was actually a highly skilled sculptor who showed me an enormous sarsen stone- cemented into the wall at the entrance of the flat- in which he had carved ever so subtly the suggestion- no more than the suggestion- of the outline of a bull.

5 A firework display mounted by the little old man in which little flying contraptions made ot withies bombarded the windows of the house with hawthorn buds.

6 The reading of a newspaper from 1921 containing articles deploring the degeneracy of modern times. Alfred Lord Tennyson had just died and there was a full page cartoon showing John Gielgud delivering a eulogy

7. A discussion of the confirmation of Edward VII- how it had taken place at this country house- and been the inaugural celebration at the new cathedral. Many great people had attended- and the celebrities asembled in Lord Creevey's corner had been particularly distinguished.

8. A survey of Lord Creevey's will- with the disposition of the properties he'd owned, including one called Southampton Abbey....

After I woke, I continued half in and half out of the dream. In one reality I heard the clock on the pier strike the quarter hour. In the other I looked out the window of the country house and saw there was a single track railway running across the lawn below.....

"Friends"

Sep. 25th, 2024 12:11 pm
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 We all have friends we don't like. "Friends", that is, who should have inverted commas placed round them. They are rarely horrible people but there's something about them that pushes us away. Common complications are (a) that the repulsion isn't mutual and they don't realise the effect they're having and (b) that they are members of a larger social network and can't be cut off without causing drama.

In dealing with them kindness probably trumps authenticity, though I'm not sure of this. 

I'm thinking of some actual people I have in my life. I don't hate them. I just don't feel the chemistry. Though I seem to be able to fake it.

They are good people. We have shared values. They should be the friends of my bosom. I've asked myself what the problem is and the only answer I can come up with is that they lack a sense of humour.

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