Temper, Temper

[poliphilo]

I used to think I'd subdued my temper. I hadn't. All I'd done was arrange my life in such a way that it was rarely tested.

Things have changed. I'm living in someone else's house by someone else's rules (which I sometimes break) and things keep happening to nark me.

Note to self: If you feel yourself losing your grip, walk away. You know you'll regret it if you don't.

Comments

[idahoswede.livejournal.com]

Have you actually made a permanent move now or is this just temporary?

No matter your age, it's damned hard to move back in with parents because they will never see you are anything but a 6-year-old.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

It's just temporary.

But it could be long term. Who knows?

[lblanchard.livejournal.com]

Respite care? Is it a possibility? Then you could go home and let Ailz' mother nark you for a change....

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

It is. we have an arrangement whereby we return home once a month and a paid carer steps in to our shoes.

[pondhopper.livejournal.com]

Walking away is the move of a wise man.
And keep on breaking those rules! Who knows? Your mum might realize there are other ways of doing things. Odder things have happened.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

The one that irks me most is afternoon tea. If you go out for the afternoon you have to be back by 4 o'clock to put the kettle on. It's very limiting.

[sovay]

I'm living in someone else's house by someone else's rules (which I sometimes break) and things keep happening to nark me.

Are you living there permanently? If so, it has to be your space as well. The experience of always biting your tongue may be character-building, but that's not the same as actually good for you.

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

Not exactly permanently. We are keeping our own house and go home once a month.

Adjustments are taking place. For example a woman who would have nothing to do with the Internet now has her dining room table covered with laptops.

[heleninwales.livejournal.com]

I hope you can keep nibbling away slowly at your mother's resistance to change. We tend to want to bring about change instantly, but that is actually the easiest to resist.

If you take your time and make change in tiny increments, you're more likely to get there. Try coming back at 4.05 pm for a few weeks, then gradually sneak it later. Or is there some way she can make her own afternoon tea? Set up a tray somewhere she can easily reach, with a kettle and everything she needs, like in a hotel?

[poliphilo.livejournal.com]

That could be possible. She makes her own cup of tea first thing in the morning.

[sovay]

We are keeping our own house and go home once a month.

Good. Where you are does not sound like the best place for you, even with laptops.

[w. lotus (from livejournal.com)]

That is a helpful rule of thumb.